Tangled Life

Recently I wrote a post on Life whether it is complicated or it’s us who complicate it. Some more thoughts revolving around my experiences of Tangled Life. Last weekend we went out for a picnic, all fun and joy. The time we left the place, the sun was all set to take a nap steadily hiding behind the trees. I could not resist myself from taking a snap of such a wonderful scene. Taking a second look on the picture, I realized that our life is the same. We keep trying to find the way out of problems and it keeps getting tangled over and over again, leading to a huge mess. The more we overthink, it takes us into a deep black hole, which finally leads to impatience and frustrations.DSC_0106-Edit

If you see just a small ray of light, it gives us a hope that we can do away with the problems being happy and remaining focused. The way sun peeps out from the tangled branches of the tree making it look beautiful, similarly it’s with life. Problems will always be there, small or big. Its upto us how do we look at it, whether we see the darkness by overthinking or we see that small beam of light helping us to untangle.

Few days back I read a quote: “Life is very complicated. Don’t try to find the Answers. Because when you find the answers, Life changes the questions.” I decode this differently as let’s keep finding the answers (road to success) and let life through more and more questions (challenges) on us. The more you face it, the more you leap towards success.

Life is really simple, it’s us who unknowingly tangle it and we have all the powers to untangle as well

Is Life complicated or it’s us..!!!

I have seen people complaining that their life is a mess with so many problems in place. Professionally, personally and sometimes both. It’s like their daily routine. I don’t understand one thing: is life complicated or it’s us who crib on the problems rather than working towards the solutions?

There would be many people across the world who would want to be stress-free, problem-free. Many a times people keep thinking – “Why only me”; “what will I do now”; “Nothing is happening”, rather than “How to get it solved”; “How to get back on track”


I would like to share few things I have learnt through experiences and which has helped me a lot during problems & issues.

1. Consolidate & Prioritize

Make a mental note of the problems and think twice, is it worth the time you are giving it? Is it that is ruining your day-to-day life? You can do lots, in that time. And also prioritize the problems. Think which one is impacting you the most. Start working towards it rather than thinking for all in one place.

2. Think of solutions than problems

Every problem has a solution or a workaround. You need to make it happen. And that only works when you actually start thinking of the solutions. Think of anything which might take it to resolve. Let it be the smallest thing it could be. Think of it, apply it.

3. Give yourself 15mins a day – ALL ALONE

Solutions does not come your way just like that. You need to give time. You need to think. Start giving time to “YOU” at least 15mins a day. Any time of the day. See what time suits you and then fix that time for yourself. I mark it in my calendar. I go out for a walk, Sit on a bench, let the day rewind. Try it. Helps a lot..!!!

4. Think Positive, Be Happy

I have learned one thing from life, Positive Thinking. It’s all about you thoughts. The more your think positive, more fast you are going to find solutions. And Be Happy, whatsoever is the matter. It’s just a day of problems and that to will pass giving you more happiness inclined life.

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It’s not all that easy how I have mentioned above. People think it’s better written than practically applied to life. But I must say this has given a completely different perspective to my life and has helped me a lot in years. I would leave you with this quote

Life is not complicated. We are complicated. When we stop doing the wrong things and start doing the right things, life becomes simple.

See you soon..!!!

Karma & Life

Roaming around the city and thinking, looking at other people, is it only me whose life is such a mess?

I curse God and want him standing in front of me. Question him, why me?? What have I done wrong that I need to face all these troubles. And because of me my near and dear ones also are going through all the pain. While I keep thinking this, I hear a voice from inside. It’s my Mom.

She believed in God and would always suggest me to pray just for a good life and not to expect anything or question him. She also said, “Whatever happens in life, happens for a reason and for good. It might be lesson learnt or success.”

She was very clear on her thoughts for God. “When you started with the things which got you here, did you consent God before doing anything?” NO, comes the answer. “Then why now? Why now you curse God rather than looking for solutions? Just think that, as much as you have prayed him, the trouble you are going through is much less compared to what it could be. Its cause of his existence and his hands on us that we are able to still live with all this problems and work on solving this.”

She always said, keep praying without any expectations and thank him for not getting you into more a mess than you are in. He will keep his eye on you. Do good for people and he will do good to you. Even if someone is doing bad to you; you keep you ego, anger, revenge aside and just smile it out. God is watching all of us and his karma is destined to show how the life will be. Your Karma you build, is what your life will be all about.

I never believed this, but later in life I realized that it is true and whatever you do good or bad comes back to you..!!!

Build good karma and result will always be good..!!!

Friday, The 13th – Rise above your Fears

Friday, The 13th – Rise above your Fears

Since morning I was seeing posts, tweets, discussions happening around today – “Friday, The 13th”. All of them had their own view points. Some believed it to be an unlucky day where they would not plan, invest, start a new venture. And for some it was just a routine day of work before weekend started. While surfing the net, I opened my twitter account and saw “Friday The 13th” trending with 177K tweets. That made me inquisitive to look at the tweets and what people had a say about it. Later I asked 3 of my friends, what were their views on this?

1st Friend: It’s just a date. Everyone has their own ‘Friday, The 13th’ in their life. It’s just like believing in god. Sometimes people over do such things, and then it feels a bit irritating.

2nd Friend: I don’t believe in such things. It’s just a combination of day and date like maths – permutations and combinations. Some combinations happen more frequently and some are rare. However, human beings are such that anything good happens on that day, that’s their lucky day and if anything bad happens, that’s their unlucky day.

3rd Friend: It’s just any other day for me. Maybe I am happier that day. I mean people have their beliefs and we should respect them till the time they are not harming the society.

In my case, I love to purposefully do the things that are told not to be done, specifically which don’t have any reasons and where the base is only ‘Superstitions’ or ‘Just what people hear and believe’. Trust me, I get more motivated, thrilled, energetic when I am about to cross the boundary of superstitious beliefs to break the myth. Somehow it turns out to be positive, because back in my mind, I know I have to prove that belief wrong.

Some families have beliefs being followed since their ancestor times where no one bothered to question or ask a simple – ‘WHY’. I grew up in such a family with lot of fear and alertness. I used to always ensure the beliefs are followed. Such as:

  1. When a black cat crosses your path, you need to stop for a minute and then start walking
  2. Do not cut nails at night
  3. If you are leaving the house and sneeze once, wait until you sneeze second time and then leave
  4. Don’t go near a ‘Peepal Tree’ at night, else ghosts will take you with them
  5. Don’t open an Umbrella inside the house

I still remember that day when I had broken this myth and was freed from superstitious beliefs, killing all my fears. I was in hurry to reach college for a scheduled examination. I had reached 5mins late and while entering the college gate, suddenly a cat jumped from the pillar and crossed my path. I rushed to the examination hall without stopping and thinking what bad could happen. Later results were out and I HAD FAILED THAT SUBJECT. All the way from college to home, I was thinking – “Is it because I didn’t stop for a moment when the cat had passed?”; “What if I had stopped, it was just a minute?”; “Does this even relate? ‘CAT’ & ‘FAILING THE EXAM’?”

As soon as I reached home, I went to my room started putting the thoughts together and came to a conclusion. It was not the ‘CAT’ or ‘SUPERSTITIOUS BELIEF’ which made me fail in exam. It was my ‘FEAR’ of something bad to happen and kept thinking of that which led to lack of focus on the answers I wrote. Since then, whether a cat crosses my way or a dog; whether I sneeze once or thrice; whether I cut my nails at night or early morning, nothing matters to me. I don’t think of anything except, what I am going to work on and how can I succeed in that.

We have got this life of a human being and no one knows when it’s going to end. Don’t waste your time behind such stupid things until you have answers to it, logically or scientifically. There are so many important things in the world to care about. Live your life at the fullest, enjoy every bit of it with your friends, family, colleagues.

I love reading Robin Sharma’s books and he has very nicely put some of the beautiful quotes on FEAR.

  1. You were born into fearlessness, but the world may have taught you to fear.
  2. Fear only become powerful when you give it your power.
  3. Make your faith larger than you fears.
  4. The fear we don’t face become our limits.
  5. Being scared is part of being alive. Accept it. Walk through it.

When are you becoming #FEARLESS?